How To Stop Feeling Angry

You sometimes react quickly when faced with a situation. You lash out instead of taking a step back to see what needs to be done. You then end up regretting what you did or what you said. If you’re prone to feelings of frustration, you definitely need to manage your emotions. You’ll be faced with more pressure. This is a part of life, but when you’re quick to lose your temper, you’re eventually going to lose the respect of the people around you. Some people have isolated themselves because they’ve already reacted negatively to a lot of situations. People flee from them and avoid them at all cost. You don’t want to be this kind of person. You need to surround yourself with friends and supporters, and the only way to do that is to be nice. This doesn’t mean that you deny yourself of real emotions. It’s okay to feel angry. After all, some situations can be frustrating. It’s how you deal with it that makes a world of difference.
Manage how you feel and get your emotions under control by being aware of whom you are. Notice what you’re feeling and thinking. Then, think about what caused it. Being able to take a step back takes skill, but this will be invaluable to you because you stop yourself from doing something you eventually regret. Admit that you’re hurt. This doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. It just means that you’re human and that you’re disposed to to having feelings. Just understand why you’re feeling this way so that in the future, you’ll be able to take calculated steps in handling difficult situations. You may even avoid putting yourself in the same spot if you’re careful enough.
Learn to express your anger without resorting to painful words and insults. Keeping your emotions bottled up deep within isn’t the healthiest way to go. This could one day explode to cataclysmic proportions because you won’t be able to control yourself. Talk to a friend. If you can, calmly approach the person who has hurt you. Do this only when you’ve calmed yourself down. Always be diplomatic about it. Don’t cross boundaries or resort to violence. No one likes to be insulted. So, don’t hurl painful words at someone else. It helps to explain where you’re coming from and you’ll be surprised at how understanding most of the people are.
Feelings of anger can be easily dealt with. However, these might not disappear quickly. It takes a while before you actually calm down. It helps to find constructive ways to channel their anger. Some people prefer to meditate. Others head straight to the gym. Do whatever helps you calm down and make sure that you never become violent. Give yourself time to calm down before you actually deal with the situation. Time is your ally here and you’ll see that if you step out of the situation long enough, you’ll be able to think clearly and objectively. More importantly, you’ll be able to find constructive ways to make the situation better.

Does Your Relationship Deserve A Little TLC

Does Your Relationship Deserve A Little TLC

Is there a relationship so true and pure that there isn’t a conflict from time to time?

Maybe.  But it’s doubtful.  No matter who is involved in the relationship a clash is sure to occur occasionally.

It could be a difference of opinion with your spouse, a friend, your children, a teacher or even your minister.  Life is filled with opinion and not all those opinions are going to agree with yours.

That’s when you need to reach down deep and summon your TLC, or tender loving care.  We’ve heard about TLC most of our lives and have expressed a need for it more than once.

It might be good to add a U to TLC making it TLCU.  The U is understanding.

One of the first steps in improving relationships is understanding the problem.  Once you understand the problem or the underlying cause of the disagreement then you’re more likely to be generous with your TLC.

You may remember the movie that expounded the philosophy that love means never having to say you’re sorry.  Others have said if you love someone you wouldn’t have hurt them in the first place.

No one is always totally right and no one is always totally wrong.

Step back and view the problem through your friend’s eyes and heart.  They probably feel as you do that they are right and you are wrong.  When you take this perspective you grasp the situation from a different angle and broaden your ideas and ideals.

Remember, it must be about more than being right.  Sure, it may be a matter of pride but if you truly respect the other person then just being right is not enough.  You must respect your friend’s dignity and self-respect.  They expect and deserve your empathy just as you deserve theirs.

Truly empathize with the other person with more than just words.  It’s easy to say that you understand how they feel but if it’s only words you’re saying then you’re no closer to improving the relationship than you were.  If there is something physically you can do then do it.  If the argument is about something tangible bring it into play to show your sincerity.

Listen to what they have to say and communicate.  Communicate in a positive and tender way without being accusatory.  Even if you’re certain they’re wrong, don’t make them feel responsible.  Keep it positive and happy.  Let them explain the disagreement from their point of view.  Remember, it’s about more than just being right if you value the relationship.

Show your appreciation and express forgiveness.  To forgive another is to be forgiven.  There is more to life than trivial matters.  Learn to compromise.  Forgiveness and compromise takes practice.

You may want to blame others, but examine yourself.  Blame is often times a shared responsibility. Keep your expectations high. Expect to improve the relationship but be realistic.  You may have to give more than you get.  Giving TLC becomes easier with TLCU.