Remembering The Names Of People You Meet

Remembering The Names Of People You Meet

When someone introduces themselves, do you remember his or her name? Is it important to do so? If you are like most people, within five minutes you will be scrambling to remember who you just met. You can improve your success rate in remembering.
Is remembering a person’s name necessary? After all, most people forget within seconds of being introduced. Why even bother going through the trouble?
To answer that question, ask yourself if it makes a difference when others remember your name. Knowing someone’s name shows that you took the time and that you care. It is a personal touch in the communication process.
This is one of the tenets of the classic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie. The book was written in the early-to-mid 20th century. It remains a big selling item to this day. Although the stories are rather dated, the concepts are eternal. Remembering and using someone’s name will get you noticed.
When you refer to people by their name, you instantly set the conversation to a comfortable and personable tone. It’s familiar and friendly. The people who you refer to by name are quite appreciative that you not only remembered their name but that you use it often.
If you aren’t good at remembering names, here are some tips. First, when introduced, say the person’s name as soon as they say it. For instance, if the person’s name is Sally, say, “it’s nice to meet you, Sally.” Try to use her name quickly again as you converse with her but try not to do this in excess. Make it as natural as possible.
You could also state that you know someone with the same name as the people you meet. This can get them talking about why they were so named (after the mother, father, etc.) When the conversation is complete, use the name again. Using the example above, you could say, “it was a pleasure to speak with you, Sally.”
It’s a good idea to keep a notepad with you at all times for when you meet new people. Shortly after your conversation ends, take a few seconds to record the person’s name so that you can refer to it later if necessary. Try to remember without the notepad, but you have it for reference, just in case you forget.
Use these tips to help you remember names. You will brighten peoples’ day when you not only remember but use their names.

Does Your Relationship Deserve A Little TLC

Does Your Relationship Deserve A Little TLC

Is there a relationship so true and pure that there isn’t a conflict from time to time?

Maybe.  But it’s doubtful.  No matter who is involved in the relationship a clash is sure to occur occasionally.

It could be a difference of opinion with your spouse, a friend, your children, a teacher or even your minister.  Life is filled with opinion and not all those opinions are going to agree with yours.

That’s when you need to reach down deep and summon your TLC, or tender loving care.  We’ve heard about TLC most of our lives and have expressed a need for it more than once.

It might be good to add a U to TLC making it TLCU.  The U is understanding.

One of the first steps in improving relationships is understanding the problem.  Once you understand the problem or the underlying cause of the disagreement then you’re more likely to be generous with your TLC.

You may remember the movie that expounded the philosophy that love means never having to say you’re sorry.  Others have said if you love someone you wouldn’t have hurt them in the first place.

No one is always totally right and no one is always totally wrong.

Step back and view the problem through your friend’s eyes and heart.  They probably feel as you do that they are right and you are wrong.  When you take this perspective you grasp the situation from a different angle and broaden your ideas and ideals.

Remember, it must be about more than being right.  Sure, it may be a matter of pride but if you truly respect the other person then just being right is not enough.  You must respect your friend’s dignity and self-respect.  They expect and deserve your empathy just as you deserve theirs.

Truly empathize with the other person with more than just words.  It’s easy to say that you understand how they feel but if it’s only words you’re saying then you’re no closer to improving the relationship than you were.  If there is something physically you can do then do it.  If the argument is about something tangible bring it into play to show your sincerity.

Listen to what they have to say and communicate.  Communicate in a positive and tender way without being accusatory.  Even if you’re certain they’re wrong, don’t make them feel responsible.  Keep it positive and happy.  Let them explain the disagreement from their point of view.  Remember, it’s about more than just being right if you value the relationship.

Show your appreciation and express forgiveness.  To forgive another is to be forgiven.  There is more to life than trivial matters.  Learn to compromise.  Forgiveness and compromise takes practice.

You may want to blame others, but examine yourself.  Blame is often times a shared responsibility. Keep your expectations high. Expect to improve the relationship but be realistic.  You may have to give more than you get.  Giving TLC becomes easier with TLCU.

 

Fun Summer Activities You Can Do With Kids

A lot of people feel that the summertime is all about going on vacations, tanning and spending lazy days swimming. While these things are great summer activities, there is much more that can be done during the months of summer. This is especially true for those of us with children. Below is a list of small summer activities that you can do with your children. Often times people feel that summer activities have to take up a large portion of the day, but this isn’t true. You can have a lot of fun and make great memories doing the little things below.

Plant Flowers: It’s true that planting flowers may get done quicker if you just do it yourself, but if you have young children it’s much more rewarding to take the time and let them help. Even if you dig the hole and place the flower in it and just let them pack in the dirt around it – they’ll love it. When you’re all done, the satisfaction you’ll see on their faces will make the extra time letting them help worth it. Additionally, because they helped plant the flowers, they’ll more than likely want to help water them throughout the summer, as well.

Make Homemade Ice Cream: One of the best treats enjoyed by all children during the summer is ice cream. So, why not make it a fun family tradition to make your own ice cream? Your children will enjoy and learn a lot as they help with the ice cream making process.

Plant a Garden: It’s important that children learn where their foods come from. So, one of the best ways to help them learn this is to show them. Take them to the store in late winter/early spring and pick out some packets of vegetable/fruit seeds. Then, when the weather is right, have them help you plant the seeds. They will enjoy watching the “fruits of their labor” begin to grow…and eventually get to eat them!

Take a Walk: Summer evenings are too good to let pass by while being indoors. So, take advantage of the great weather and take the entire family on a walk around the neighborhood. If your children don’t want to walk, let them ride their bikes or pull them in a wagon. The activity is very simple, but a lot of fun for everyone!

Above are just a few of the many simple summer activities you can do with your children that are not only fun, but create great memories. Just remember that children are much easier to please than adults. Things like homemade ice cream, going to the park and water gun fights are just as much fun for them as big family vacations. Therefore, look for little things you can do together this summer and have fun!

Healthy Tips For Busy Mothers

As mothers, the majority of us are more concerned with the health and wellness of our children than we are of our own health. It’s very easy for mothers to overlook their health because of the everyday responsibilities they face. For example, mothers have to make sure that the kids are up, dressed and fed before they head off to school first thing every morning. Then, for many mothers, they are off to work themselves. Once work is finished, it’s time to hurry back home and take the kids to their extracurricular activities, run errands, pick them back up, go home, fix dinner, make sure the kids’ homework gets done, they bathe and brush their teeth and are in bed at a decent hour.

Of course, all of this is excluding the extra stuff like keeping the house clean, doing laundry, paying bills, etc. Now you can probably see why many mothers aren’t concerned with their health. You may be one of these women yourself. If so, then please understand that it’s important for you to stay healthy. After all, if you get sick then who is going to get everything done? Below are some healthy tips that you need to follow to ensure your good health.

Tip #1 – Eat: Obviously, you don’t have a lot of time to eat, but this is essential to staying healthy. Most of us know that we need to eat three meals a day, but do you also know that you should be eating at least two snacks a day as well? This will keep your metabolism going and your energy levels up – so don’t skimp on your food. You should be eating healthy foods too. Things like yogurt, fruit, granola bars and nuts are quick, easy and healthy!

Tip #2 – Drink: Water that is. In addition to eating healthy foods, you need to be drinking water throughout your day. We’ve all heard the “8 glasses a day” speech so I’m not going to give it to you again. Just stay properly hydrated. It will keep your energy levels up as well as flush the impurities out of your body and ward off urinary tract infections and much more.

Tip #3 – Exercise: Your body needs exercise each day and it doesn’t care whether you’re a mother or not. Although you may find yourself busy throughout the day and exhausted at the end of the day, it’s important that you squeeze in at least 20-30 minutes of exercise each day. There are several ways you can do this. For instance, you can go on a walk after dinner, play Xbox Kinect or Nintendo Wii games with your family or enroll in a yoga class at a fitness club.

Tip #4 – Be Happy: As women and mothers, we tend to overload ourselves with work, family and worries. There isn’t much time to focus on being happy. However, this is important too. Studies have shown that, generally, happy people are healthier people. In order to become happier, consider setting aside a little time for yourself every day – or week – to do something you like doing. This time will help you feel refreshed and become happier.

Tip #5 – Sleep: Getting a good night of sleep is critical to your overall health. Sleep is when your body recharges itself. So, naturally, if you aren’t getting enough sleep you aren’t operating on a “full battery,” which means you’ll wear out quicker. It also means your body will too, which depletes your immune system. So, get the sleep you need at night.

How Anyone Can Benefit From Life Management For Physicians

We all can benefit from a dose of life management from time to time; however, when it comes to life management for physicians we tend to think they have it all together.

There is not a single occupation that does not have demands, stressors as well as rewards.

Perhaps physicians just stand out because they are who we turn to for optimal health and during times of crisis.

Afterall, if your doctor is able to see all those patients and show up at 2 o’clock in the morning at your hospital bedside he must have his act together, right?

Hmm…maybe not

A doctors life expectancy many years ago was only about 55, due to the demands of burning the candle at both ends, personal habits, and ignoring their own health issues.

Fast forward to 2011 and we see doctors living much longer; however, the burnout rate has escalated in certain specialties, especially primary care.

The changes you may be witnessing are doctors that once took care of you in the office and hospital are now making a choice to do one or the other. There are many reasons why they make the decision to do one or the other, but the primary response you will hear is needing more time for themselves, friends, family and the one they love.

It is no secret that the medical profession does not have a great track record when it comes to achieving success with long term relationships.

If a physician is leaving home at 6 a.m. and getting home at 10 p.m., something is going to eventually give even in the most committed of relationships.

Does this mean your doctor that has provided your care for many years suddenly doesn’t care about you?

Of course not, they are finally realizing that to provide optimal health care, they need to be taking better care of themselves as well.

Working up to eighteen hours per day does not leave anyone much time to focus on themselves.

To achieve health excellence we all need to address the spiritual , emotional , and physical aspects as our health care needs. We all know that being out of align in one aspect can wreck havoc on our overall health.

Doctors are required to be constantly learning new things, dealing with lower reimbursement, complying with documentation rules, seeing more patients, less income, phone calls, dictation, malpractice threats and many other issues all before they even consider the time their family wants and deserves.

I know, that is what they signed up for when they went to medical school, so they should just deal with it.

I am sure you have noticed that your doctor seems to spend less time with you year after year…the days of sitting down and chatting about your latest vacation or how the family is doing are about over. To maintain their incomes and expectations of the people that sign their paychecks, doctors are being pushed to see patients as often as every 10 minutes.

Now that is great if you are the patient that wants to get back to work and just has a cold or sore throat, but what about the older patient taking 10-15 medications for heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure. That visit will take a minimum of 20 minutes if no one talks.

So, I hope you can see the frustration many physicians face in the constantly changing world of health care.

Many would argue that physicians need to get better at managing their time.

How do you manage your time when their is no more time to manage.

Or is there?

Life management through time management for physicians is something we can all learn and benefit from.

If you are a doctor or someone dealing with the difficulties of any other profession, then the following strategies may help you achieve a more rewarding life in and out of the office.

1. Just Listen- instead of keeping your eye on the clock, take the time to allow your patient or customer to just talk about their problems, family and what makes them smile. Even if you only do this a couple times a day you will feel more rewarded for your efforts at the end of the day and your patient or customer will think you spent hours with them.

2. Emotional competence- look for emotional competence and professional competence when dealing with people and potential employees. Someone that knows what makes them happy, what upsets them, what they find satisfying, can be a great future asset to your business.

3. What Bugs You- take the time at the end of the day to make a list of the things that are bothering you  before leaving the office.

4. Ask For Advice- ask your older patient or customer how they dealt with certain issues in the past. Their insight can be invaluable and many have a wealth of wisdom.

5. Stop Trying To Be All Things To All People- sometimes you just have to  say, no,  or I can not do this today.

6. Take Time Off- take regularly scheduled days off or half a day.  Your patients and your staff
will eventually expect you to be off and unavailable during that time. Use the time for something you really want to do.

7.Become More Transparent– share with your patients, colleagues, and customers  your struggle to find balance in your
life. They will most likely have some useful and uplifting advice.

8.Family Needs- ask your family what they need most from you. It may be something
different than you think. (Ask your office staff too.)

9. Spread Your Wings– when you’re out socially with colleagues and friends, make a real attempt to
talk about things other than medicine or business. There is a whole big world out there unrelated to the health care profession.

10. Balance Your Task- learn when to multitask and when to hyper focus  on things that need your attention now.

11. Eat With Your Family- eat at least one meal a day with your family or with a friend. You will be perceived as having spent more time with them if you sit down and give them your full attention. Patients perceive the time spent with the doctor as much longer when the doctor actually sat down and listened.

12. Your Own Mental Health Team- develop a support system that helps you relieve  or eliminate stress. Everyone needs family and friends to
rely on, but baby-sitters, house cleaners and someone to take care of the lawn can play a major role in keeping your stress under control.

13. Avoid The Office On Days Off- try to avoid getting into the habit of  going into the office on the weekend or other days off, unless absolutely necessary.
It is rare you get caught up or stay caught up when you use the weekend instead of spending the time doing other things with family or using it for “me” time.

14. Keep Business Separate From Friendships- make friends with a few people who will agree to never ask you to be their doctor.

15. Learn To Shift- remember that life balance is a shifting concept and some days will be better than others.

16. Talk To Yourself- ask yourself a simple question, “Is doing ________ going to make me wish I was home with my family?” If so, graciously say, “No thanks, someone else will have to do it.”

17. Enjoy The Journey- realize that each one of us has our own mountain to climb. Try to remember to pause to enjoy the view along the way and to help and let yourself be helped by others you meet on the path.

Try to implement at least one of the above strategies into your business and life.

Learning how to tweak this and shift there will help create greater satisfaction and less stress leading to am more rewarding  practice, happier relationships and more  optimal health.

 

Docmac