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Remembering The Names Of People You Meet

Remembering The Names Of People You Meet

When someone introduces themselves, do you remember his or her name? Is it important to do so? If you are like most people, within five minutes you will be scrambling to remember who you just met. You can improve your success rate in remembering.
Is remembering a person’s name necessary? After all, most people forget within seconds of being introduced. Why even bother going through the trouble?
To answer that question, ask yourself if it makes a difference when others remember your name. Knowing someone’s name shows that you took the time and that you care. It is a personal touch in the communication process.
This is one of the tenets of the classic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie. The book was written in the early-to-mid 20th century. It remains a big selling item to this day. Although the stories are rather dated, the concepts are eternal. Remembering and using someone’s name will get you noticed.
When you refer to people by their name, you instantly set the conversation to a comfortable and personable tone. It’s familiar and friendly. The people who you refer to by name are quite appreciative that you not only remembered their name but that you use it often.
If you aren’t good at remembering names, here are some tips. First, when introduced, say the person’s name as soon as they say it. For instance, if the person’s name is Sally, say, “it’s nice to meet you, Sally.” Try to use her name quickly again as you converse with her but try not to do this in excess. Make it as natural as possible.
You could also state that you know someone with the same name as the people you meet. This can get them talking about why they were so named (after the mother, father, etc.) When the conversation is complete, use the name again. Using the example above, you could say, “it was a pleasure to speak with you, Sally.”
It’s a good idea to keep a notepad with you at all times for when you meet new people. Shortly after your conversation ends, take a few seconds to record the person’s name so that you can refer to it later if necessary. Try to remember without the notepad, but you have it for reference, just in case you forget.
Use these tips to help you remember names. You will brighten peoples’ day when you not only remember but use their names.

If You Want To Get Closer To Someone

If You Want To Get Closer To Someone

It you want to get closer to someone then Travel.

I am not referring to hopping on a plane and flying thousands of miles to get closer to someone you care about.

I am referring to the person that may be lying next to you, in the next room or down the road that seems to be drifting away from you or you would like to know better, but things just do not seem to click.

I doubt there exist anyone, worldwide, that does not desire to be close to someone, to feel a touch, or just to relate at a deeper level.

If you find you are having trouble getting close to someone or building those valuable relationships in love or business consider the following tool to help bring things back to life.

T is for TRUST: Trust is the superglue that holds things together. Without trust a relationship will never move in a positive direction. This is probably the simplest concept to understand no matter what your level of education.           Some people meet may be very trustworthy, but because of their behavior or little quirks we are guarded about how we feel about them until we have had adequate time to get to know and understand them. Others we meet may be con artist; however, with a little time their true intentions will become apparent.

R is for RESPECT: Tell your friends and those you love how you feel now. Don’t wait until they are no longer around or when you are giving their eulogy. Be nonjudgmental about who they are and what they have done with their life, even if you don’t always agree. Knowing just one person cares can change someone from a mindset of hopelessness to one of hope and optimism, turning there life around and possibly saving their life.

Just show some respect and let others know they are important to you now because you want to, do not wait until you feel you have to.

A is for AFFECTION: Show that you care with love, a little touch, a kind word and perhaps the most important is listening to what they have to say. The willingness to sit and really listen to what someone has to say can change that person’s outlook on life.

V is for VULNERABILITY: There is risk associated with any relationship. However, there is some degree of vulnerability in any successful relationship. If you build walls around you to keep out
sadness, you will also be keeping out the joy.

E is for EMOTIONAL INTIMACY: Any relationship will be doomed to failure if the lines of communication are not kept open. No matter how painful it may be to discuss issues, if one side of the
relationship does not keep channels open it is certain to fail. Be attentive to the individual whose actions do not fit with what they are saying to you during your talks or the positive strokes they may give you that seem out of character to how they are really treating you. Everyone should be able to walk away from a talk with a more positive outlook about the relationship or at least feeling more informed.

L is for LAUGHTER: If you want to bring someone closer keep laughter alive in the relationship. How can you be upset with someone who keeps you smiling.

Perhaps my 4 year old daughter says it best…daddy I love you, you make me funny.

The next time you are down in the dumps, and frustrated over how things are going, try a little TRAVEL to bring back some life in those relationships that you cherish.

Make Me A Winner

The Key To Success With Any Relationship Is The Mindset Of Each Of The Partners

All Partners Have To Want The Other Partner To Be A Winner 

With That Mindset You Cannot Fail In Love, Business, and Family…

Time Management Tip

Most Of Us Spend Too Much Time Looking For The Perfect Love

Instead Of Focusing Our Time On Creating

The Perfect Love…

Does Your Relationship Deserve A Little TLC

Does Your Relationship Deserve A Little TLC

Is there a relationship so true and pure that there isn’t a conflict from time to time?

Maybe.  But it’s doubtful.  No matter who is involved in the relationship a clash is sure to occur occasionally.

It could be a difference of opinion with your spouse, a friend, your children, a teacher or even your minister.  Life is filled with opinion and not all those opinions are going to agree with yours.

That’s when you need to reach down deep and summon your TLC, or tender loving care.  We’ve heard about TLC most of our lives and have expressed a need for it more than once.

It might be good to add a U to TLC making it TLCU.  The U is understanding.

One of the first steps in improving relationships is understanding the problem.  Once you understand the problem or the underlying cause of the disagreement then you’re more likely to be generous with your TLC.

You may remember the movie that expounded the philosophy that love means never having to say you’re sorry.  Others have said if you love someone you wouldn’t have hurt them in the first place.

No one is always totally right and no one is always totally wrong.

Step back and view the problem through your friend’s eyes and heart.  They probably feel as you do that they are right and you are wrong.  When you take this perspective you grasp the situation from a different angle and broaden your ideas and ideals.

Remember, it must be about more than being right.  Sure, it may be a matter of pride but if you truly respect the other person then just being right is not enough.  You must respect your friend’s dignity and self-respect.  They expect and deserve your empathy just as you deserve theirs.

Truly empathize with the other person with more than just words.  It’s easy to say that you understand how they feel but if it’s only words you’re saying then you’re no closer to improving the relationship than you were.  If there is something physically you can do then do it.  If the argument is about something tangible bring it into play to show your sincerity.

Listen to what they have to say and communicate.  Communicate in a positive and tender way without being accusatory.  Even if you’re certain they’re wrong, don’t make them feel responsible.  Keep it positive and happy.  Let them explain the disagreement from their point of view.  Remember, it’s about more than just being right if you value the relationship.

Show your appreciation and express forgiveness.  To forgive another is to be forgiven.  There is more to life than trivial matters.  Learn to compromise.  Forgiveness and compromise takes practice.

You may want to blame others, but examine yourself.  Blame is often times a shared responsibility. Keep your expectations high. Expect to improve the relationship but be realistic.  You may have to give more than you get.  Giving TLC becomes easier with TLCU.

 

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