Making Your New Year Goals A Reality

Awaken Success

Time to awaken and become inspired for success.

There is a new post over at on creating your own self development plan for success.

 This should be just what all of us are looking for as we procrastinate on putting our goals and aspirations, for the upcoming 2014, down on paper.

Make your goals real…write them down.

7 Tips For Thinking Positive To Achieve Success

7 Tips For Thinking Positive To Achieve Success

Thinking positively is not a temporary way to make a specific achievement; it is a total change in the way you think and act. Here are a few practical ways to introduce positive thinking into your every day life and business.

1. Develop a positive attitude

If you expect success you have a good chance of achieving it.  You should never be blind to the things that could go wrong, but finding a positive way to manage your risks will help you to believe that your project is going to do well.

2. Think and talk in positive terms

The language you use will have an enormous impact on your own subconscious as well as the people around you.  Use positive terms to gain confidence and convince yourself and other people that you will achieve your goals.

Positive terms to use

Negative and uncertain terms to avoid

I will
I’ll try
I can
I can’t
It is possible
I’m not sure
It will be ready
It might be ready
I am able to do that
I don’t know

3. Surround yourself with positive people

Positive thoughts and expressions can be as contagious as negativity, although we are not usually so aware of it.  If other people around you are expecting success and happiness then this will improve your general outlook as well.

4. Substitute negative thoughts for positive ones.

When something has not gone as planned don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on it and worrying about it.  Do focus on the lessons you have learned and visualize how well it will go next time, using the experience you have gained.

As Winston Churchill, British Prime Minister, once said;

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty”

5. Balance negative images with positive ones

We are bombarded with negative images all day without being aware of it.  Reading the paper, or watching the news will inevitable bring the world’s problems to your attention, and watching sad or violent films can fill our minds with negative thoughts.

Balance this onslaught of negativity by listening to music that makes you happy, watching inspirational films or reading a positive book that you really enjoy.  Balancing the negative images in your mind with positive ones will improve your overall outlook dramatically.

6. Be physically positive

Your posture can contribute greatly to your disposition. Walking tall and taking long strides, keeping your head up and making eye contact can all dispel those negative thoughts.

Some people find it helps to sing an upbeat song in their head as they are going about every day tasks.  This is a great way to put a swing in your step and a smile on your face.

You can go as far as imagining yourself in a positive situation.  I once had to approach a group of managers sitting around a table in an open plan office.  I was the new office junior and scared stiff.

Instead of shuffling up to them with my eyes down, I though to myself “You might be my superiors now but I will be your boss one day.”  This gave me the confidence to approach the group positively with a knowing smile on my face, and get exactly what I wanted.

Physical exercise can be another great way to increase your positive mental state.  Regularly walking, swimming, cycling or playing sport can help to lift negative thoughts and worries by increasing endorphins that promote happiness and wellbeing.

7. Find your happy trigger. 

What makes you happy no matter what?  Maybe it is a song, a joke, a pet, or even simply being outside in the sunshine.  When the going gets tough, and it will, have a trigger to keep you thinking positively.


List 10 things that make you happy.  It can be a song, a smell, an activity, anything.  Write them down.  Print them out, put the list somewhere you can access it.  When you need it, when the going gets tough or negative thoughts start to slip into your mind, pull the list out and refer to it.


In life and business, there are two cardinal sins… The first is to act precipitously without thought and the second is to not act at all.
-Carl Icahn

Stomping the hurdle that’s holding you back.

Phillip Knight, the founder of Nike, has a history of “just doing it” and long the way he’ll confess to his share of mistakes.  His motto?  “The trouble in America is not that we are making too many mistakes, says Knight, but that we are making too few.”

Don’t be afraid of making mistakes.  Be afraid of not making them.  Or to quote a more popular Nike saying, “JUST DO IT”

The major factor that prevents people from starting their own business is fear.  This is not usually a general fear of failure, but a specific fear of something they feel they can’t do or don’t know.

Some of the business elements that people can be afraid of are:

* Figures
* Accounts
* Technology
* Customer contact
* Deadlines
* Tax issues
* Decision making

Avoiding your fears only serves to strengthen them.  The best way to overcome your fears, enabling you launch a successful business, is to face them head on.

When we confront a fear, the physical exertion can be exhausting.  Your body is not designed to stay afraid for long, and if you expose yourself to a fear for long enough, your body will naturally relax and you will cease to be afraid.  If this works with fears of heights or spiders, why can’t it work for business fears?

Conquering you business fears.

The most practical way of facing your business related fears is to take a training course that covers that particular area of business.  A short course in accounting might not give you the skills you need to do your own accounts, but if it gives you a general understanding and reduces your fear of accounts, it will enable you to start a business and work easily with an accountant.

One of the most common fears today is using new technologies, particularly computer programs.  People see computer programs as overly complicated, and are afraid to do anything in case they press a wrong button or change something they can’t undo.

There are a couple of ways to face your fear of technology:

1. Don’t be afraid to ‘play.  Thinking of it as playing rather than learning or experimenting suddenly makes it feel much less intimidating.
2. Remember that you are unlikely to do something really wrong. If you do you can always reload the software and start again.
3. Keep in mind that a real live person programmed the software, so it can’t be that complex, right?
4. Check online for a simple guide or cheat sheet.  The manual that comes with software can be very complex and confusing, whereas cheat sheets can help you to learn small sections of the software at a time.
5. Ask for help.  You wouldn’t go rock climbing for the first time without a guide would you?  If you’re struggling with something, hire a guide to walk you through it.  From software to accounting, many people are happy to help – often free of charge.

Overcoming Fear Exercise:  Write down what might stop you from starting a business.  What are your fears?  What can you do to overcome them?  What tools can you use to face your fears?

My first six years in the business were hopeless. There are a lot of times when you sit and you say “Why am I doing this? I’ll never make it. It’s just not going to happen. I should go out and get a real job, and try to survive.
-George Lucas

How to power on when the going gets tough.

Did you read the quote above?  If not, take a few seconds and read it.  Where would we be today if George had gotten a real job?

It would mean no Star Wars!

Star Wars aside, being an entrepreneur is never 100% easy.  Few things are perfect all of the time.  When your plans don’t go well, and your new business faces delays or obstacles, it can be tempting to throw in the towel and give up.  After all, you gave it a shot which is more than most people can say.  This is a common trap.


Make Getting Rid Of Destructive Thoughts A New Year Resolution

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Are you getting all you want out of life or do you need to make getting rid of destructive thoughts a new year resolution?

If you want to achieve your dreams and get all you want in life you have to give up negative thinking. Persistant destructive thoughts will  bring you down and make you feel insecure.

There is no real science behind this attitude of destructive thought; however, some studies reveal that optimistic people have healthier lives.

It’s normal to doubt certain areas in your life. Things don’t always pan out that way you hoped they would, and you’re bound to make mistakes along the way.

But this doesn’t necessarily mean that you always have to think of the worst outcome all the time. Many of us prepare for a bad outcome in everything we do. A better approach would be to have faith and keep believing in ourselves.

To avoid awkward circumstances, you come up with a number of excuses as to why you shouldn’t engage in a certain situation. These excuses act like your prison until you hinder yourself from fully experiencing anything that could improve your life.

You have to realize that everyone needs to try out new things for them to fully grow. Life doesn’t hand you instant happiness in a silver platter.  You have to work at it and push yourself a bit further. Instead of taking big leaps, move forward with small steps.

Another important thing you must do is to stop thinking about your recent run-in with bad luck. You think that the only way to stop disappointments is to not think about things working out. This hampers your level of excitement, and less excited people are just more likely to perform poorly.

Stop subconsciously telling yourself that you can never be happy. This is a classic case of self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you expect things to work against you, the more likely they will because your actions will likely be influenced by your negativity. Keep believing in yourself if you want to achieve your dreams.

While you work your way up the ladder of success, you are so careful not to step on anyone’s toes. While this is a very healthy attitude, you sometimes become too afraid about imposing something on someone else.

You become fearful of inconveniencing and offending others that you lock yourself in one place for too long. This might make someone else feel uncomfortable, but that isn’t reason enough for you to not go for your desires. Just remember that as long as you are not lying, cheating, breaking the law, or carelessly causing someone pain, you owe it to yourself to live your life to the fullest.

Things usually happen for a reason, so you can make fate work for you by believing that you are always given the opportunity to better your life. If you want something badly enough, the rewards of taking the chance outweigh the hindrances that come with it. You just need to keep the ball rolling until you’ll see that the world actually works for you.

This new year make it one of your resolutions to get rid of destructive thoughts and practice the art of positive thinking.


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Are There Any Health Benefits Of Positive Thinking

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Many of us have the idea that benefits of positive thinking extend to our physical health as well as our mindset, and research has shown that this may just be true. Here is a guide to some of the benefits you may feel if you work on developing a more positive outlook on life.

Positive Thinking Helps Beat Stress and Illness

Whether you see the glass as half full or half empty can have a huge impact on the way you deal with life’s problems. Those who are generally more optimistic will often see the silver lining in situations that would otherwise make them stressed. And there is a direct link between our stress levels and the way our immune system works.

Other studies have shown that negative thoughts may also directly affect our immunity to certain conditions. One study suggested that increased brain activity while thinking negative thoughts was related to our body’s response to the seasonal flu vaccination. Negative emotion and self-talk is also a huge factor in those suffering from depression.

A positive outlook has also helped people dealing with serious long term illnesses such as cancer. Those who practice positive thinking – by keeping check on the stream of thoughts that go through their brain throughout the day – were known to reduce some of the negative side effects of their treatment, and help increase the speed of recovery.

The Research Isn’t Yet Clear

The research isn’t yet conclusive when it comes to the many benefits of positive thinking on our health. However, Mayo Clinic states that positive thinking may affect more areas than we realize, including:
* Increasing our life span,
* Giving us greater resistance to the common cold,
* Improving physical wellbeing in general,
* Lowering our chances of becoming depressed,
* Helping us to cope better with difficulties in life,
* And reducing the risk of a fatal cardiovascular disease.

There are many theories as to why positive thinkers may experience some or all of these health benefits, but it generally comes down to the fact that positive thinkers are less stressed in general. This, in turn, is a result of what we tell ourselves day-to-day.

We all have a stream of thoughts, and we don’t even notice most of the thoughts that pop into our minds. Studies have shown that there are as many as thousands of negative thoughts going through our minds every day. It’s not difficult to understand why a constant stream of negative thoughts can lead to a negative outlook on life, making it harder to deal with difficult situations!

As you can see, the benefits of positive thinking aren’t limited to happiness. It can affect all areas of our lives if we work on our thoughts properly.



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The Art Of Anti-Negative Thinking

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Learning how to stop negative thoughts takes time and practice. Since negative thinking is really a habit, the first step is catching when you’re thinking negatively to begin with. Once you start to notice your negative thoughts, you can weigh them up against the evidence in order to convince yourself that they’re not really true.

It Takes Evidence To Challenge Your Negative Thoughts

You may know by now that your negative thoughts aren’t rational at all. But no matter how much you, or others, tell yourself that fact, it’s still near impossible to stop yourself from thinking them. This is why you need to go one step further and start gathering evidence that’ll convince you that your negative thoughts aren’t true.

Step By Step Guide To Challenging Your Thoughts

Step 1 – The first step is to take a broad category of negative thought. For example, you may choose to work on your negative body image, or you could choose the thought “I am unlucky”. Whatever you do, don’t work on every single one of your negative thoughts at once. It takes time to learn how to stop negative thoughts, so work on them gradually.

Step 2 – Now that you’ve got your broad category, you can start to think about all the thoughts that come under that heading. Take the negative body image example, some of your regular thoughts may be “I can’t wear tight dresses as they show off my big butt” or “everyone pays attention to my pretty best friend and not me” or “I’ll always be alone. Nobody finds me attractive”. Make a list of these thoughts on one side of a table.

Step 3 – Now it’s time to look for the evidence to support your thoughts. On the other side of the table, write down the evidence in real life that will boost that thought. For example, for the thought  “I’ll always be alone. Nobody finds me attractive”, you might write that nobody has ever, in fact, told you that you were unattractive, and that there’s no logical reason for you to believe you’ll always be alone. Or that school bullies may have picked on you, but nobody who cares has mentioned anything. You can also write evidence such as “I personally don’t judge people solely on looks, so why would people judge me solely on looks?”

Do you understand how this is working? Writing out the evidence is forcing you to go through your life to see whether your thoughts actually come from something solid. A “feeling” that people think you’re unattractive isn’t enough. This is the place for cold, hard evidence. Sure, we’ve all had some negative comments or things that made us feel less than great. But when you start to write out the facts, you’ll probably realize that your thoughts are even more irrational than you first thought!

Now What?

You should repeat this for every kind of negative thought that you think. You may even need to repeat it a number of time for different sets of negative thoughts, as it takes a while for your emotions to catch up with your rational brain! Over time, however, you’ll find that it is possible to know how to stop negative thoughts, and that your negative thinking “habit” actually turns into far more rational thinking.



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