Boosting Mental And Emotional Health After Age 60

Boosting Mental And Emotional Health After Age 60

This article will discuss 8 ways to increase social interaction after age 60 to help boost mental and emotional health.

A report in 2012 gave some insight into the effects of social isolation on seniors.

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According to the author, “social isolation is a major and prevalent health problem among community-dwelling older adults, leading to numerous detrimental health conditions … social isolation will impact the health, well-being, and quality of life of numerous older adults.”

Not only does social isolation have a damaging effect on life expectancy, it also affects our mental health too. Loneliness has been found to increase our risk of depression, social anxiety, addiction, as well as hoarding.

Older people who live in increasingly smaller worlds are particularly at risk of loneliness and therefore diminished mental and emotional health, which is why it is  important that a way is found to increase social interaction.

The following are 8 ways  to boost your mental and emotional health after age 60:

1. Invite Friends For Tea or Coffee

As we get past 60, it’s all too easy to assume that people don’t want us to bother them by inviting them around for tea, coffee, and cake. They’re growing old themselves and they have their own lives to worry about.

You’d be surprised at how much family, friends or even neighbors appreciate being invited round for a chat and some tea and coffee.

2. Go Back To School

Yes, back to school! At numerous colleges and universities, mature students represent around one quarter of the student body. It doesn’t matter how old you are because no one is ever too old to learn.

Taking classes online or on campus to get a degree  or just because you are interested will challenge you, boost your confidence and help you learn new skills.

3. Learn How To Use A Computer

We now live in the age of information, which basically means that computers have taken over young peoples’ lives. The problem for anyone over 60 is that you may have missed the boat and assumed that computers are simply tools for the younger generation.

However, a computer, no matter how daunting it might appear at first, is an incredibly useful social tool that connects you to the outer world. You can get in touch with old friends or even find new friends.

You can join online forums and groups and even go to conventions you never knew existed. It’s a fabulous way of staying in touch with people and opens up your world.

Moreover, your mental health can get a boost too if you try your hand at online games, such as chess.

4. Buy A Phone

You can increase your social interaction by purchasing a cellular phone. Most phone companies now offer monthly contracts, so you can pretty much talk to people on the phone for as long as you want. You can text message too, and even play games on it. Having a cell phone ensures that you will not miss any invitations for a social event.

5. Involve Yourself In Community Activities

Most towns have community centers that hold regular community activities for older people. These activities generally include singing, book clubs, bridge clubs, quiz nights, as well as bingo nights, and yoga groups.

Involving yourself in community activities helps to stimulate your mind and your emotional health and meeting new people is one of the most important action steps to boost your health and wellbeing.

6. Help Others

You’re never too old to learn, and you’re never too old to help others. If you have knowledge and experience that you’ve always wanted to share with other people, now is the time to do it.

Whether you decide to mentor a younger person or help out at a homeless shelter, your mental skills will certainly be tested and sharpened – no matter how rusty they were!

7. Plan Ahead

Sometimes we’re a little bit guilty of not getting much done during the week because we simply haven’t planned anything. We wake up in the morning not knowing what we’re going to do, and so we just drift through the day.

If you buy yourself a calendar and make plans for the week, you’re more likely to stick to them. Moreover, you’ll become more adventurous in your planning and may even consider doing something you’ve never done before.

8. Plan It!

Plan a month of activities that will you engage in. Get creative and write them down in your calendar or date book.

Get creative and choose fun and exciting new adventures, and ask friends to come along. Do this at the beginning of each month and stick to them as you would all those business appointments you used to keep.

Getting To The Bottom Of Infidelity

Investing in a relationship can ultimately leave you frustrated when your partner starts showing a change in how they interact with you. If you are concerned that your partner may be having an affair it is important to understand a few things about getting to the bottom of infidelity.

The 3 different ways that infidelity can occur are:  emotional, sexual, and psychological.

Emotional Infidelity

You really don’t have to take your clothes off to commit adultery, according to leading adultery expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil. “The
greatest betrayals to a relationship can happen without any touching. Most people mistakenly believe infidelity isn’t infidelity unless
there’s sex involved.”

Emotional infidelity is an “affair of the heart,” when someone’s heart and mind are involved, and everything is shared but sex. Experts
believe that this can actually be more dangerous and destructive to a relationship than a strictly sexual affair.

Therapist Heather McKechnie believes this is because, “people start to depend on the emotional support from someone other than their
partner, which can erode the marital relationship.”

Quite obviously, most sexual liaisons originate as peer relationships, meaning that Emotional Infidelity can be longer lasting than an
affair that is purely sexual.

The combination of emotional & sexual infidelity

At some point in an Emotional Affair, things become physical. Your cheating spouse has managed to get away with the emotional side of
infidelity, now the next step seems only natural to them.

They might even think they are entitled to this affair, as their ego has been stroked by the other person, and they are wrapped up in their
own needs. In this case, your partner is involved in the previously mentioned “I don’t want to say no” affair.

They can rationalize their behaviour; no matter how deceptive and manipulative it is, since they feel their needs, lifestyle and emotions are superior to yours.

At the point where Emotional Infidelity becomes sexual, the unfaithful spouse continues with the next step in the affair, unable to stop
themselves. When the guilty party actually feels guilty, then they are involved in an “I can’t say no” affair.

Your partner feels like they are no longer in control of their actions, and are aware that they are doing to you is unforgivable. The
cheating spouse knows they should end the affair, but see no way of how to do it, and are ashamed by this struggle.

Combination of Psychological, Emotional & Sexual Infidelity

Not all affairs begin with selfishness and a lack of will power – sometimes anger is the catalyst for the cheating spouse. In this case your
partner is involved in a “revenge” affair.

The reason for their anger and resentment may not be conscious to them; they may be acting on a subconscious level. Whatever the reason, they are being unfaithful to punish you.

Your partner might even suspect that you are cheating, or that you have been unfaithful to them in the past, and this spurs them into
seeking revenge (whether or not you have been unfaithful or not).

In a “revenge” affair, the cheating partner is enjoying the anguish that they are causing their partner, as they feel that they are settling
scores.

There are cases where infidelity is a result of some psychological trauma that your spouse has endured in the past. In this situation, the
cheating spouse has had a painful sexual history, of abuse or maybe even something as serious as rape, and their infidelity is a product
of this unfortunate circumstance.

Your partner may have buried the trauma so deeply in their subconscious. They themselves do not understand why they cannot be
faithful.

The aforementioned discussion on infidelity should help your understanding of how relationships can begin to break down right before your eyes. If you suspect infidelity it is best to bring up your concerns and seek counseling with your partner, so that you both can learn how to deal with it in a healthy constructive manner.

 

 

 

7 Characteristics Of Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Respect, sharing and trust are what allows a relationship to persist, florish and remain healthy.

Healthy relationships are based on the belief that both partners are equal and the power in the relationship is shared by both partners.

The 50/50 rule is a simple way to view healthy relationships.

The following are 7 characteristics of a healthy relationship:

1. Respect – listening to one another, valuing each other’s opinions, and listening in a non-judgmental manner. Perhaps more important is respecting the other enough to understand and affirm the other’s emotions.

2. Trust and support – supporting each other’s goals in life, and respecting each other’s right to his/her own feelings, opinions, friends, activities and interest.

3. Honesty and accountability – communicating openly and truthfully, admitting mistakes or being wrong, acknowledging past use of violence, and accepting responsibility for one’s self.

4. Shared responsibility – making family/relationship decisions together, mutually agreeing on a distribution of work which is fair to both partners, giving the other adequate notice of decisions and what you expect of them to eliminate tension. If parents, the couple shares parental responsibilities and acts as positive, non-violent role models for the children.

5. Economic partnership – in marriage or cohabitation, making financial decisions together, and making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements. Letting the other know what you expect and not assuming they know what you are thinking.

6. Negotiation and fairness – being willing to compromise, accepting change, and seeking mutually satisfying solutions to conflict.

7. Non-threatening behavior – talking and acting in a way that promotes both partners’ feelings of safety in the relationship. In any relationship, both should feel comfortable and safe in expressing himself or herself when engaging in activities or conversation without fear of retribution.

If you are involved in any relationship you see the other as a valuable part of your life. Communication without retribution is the key to maintaining that value and to prevent the relationship from crumbling apart.