3 Steps to Being a Better You

3 Steps to Being a Better You 

I am sure that no matter where you are in life or what you have accomplished you are constantly looking for ways to improve yourself or do things better.

There is no shortage of advice on how we can improve ourselves. This advice comes in many forms including mentoring, seminars, books, reports, articles and videos.

There is so much advice available as the net has evolved that it can be overwhelming trying to decide what you should spend your time on and what advice to follow.

If you took the time to follow everything you should be doing in self improvement, getting more productive, creating the life you want, you would probably have little time left to do anything else.

I am a big believer in taking any goal and breaking down the steps needed to achieve that goal. Then approaching things one step at a time until you achieve the desired end result.

The following is a step by step approach to being a better you:

Step 1

You really can’t make improvement in yourself until you understand what you need to improve on.

It is imperative that you know where you are and where you ultimately want to be.

So the first step is to make a list.

You need to make a 2 column or 3 column list.

The first column is what you want to change.

The second column is what you want the end result to be.

In the third column put the benefits of achieving the end result.

Listing the benefits can be very motivating in your quest to achieve your goals.

Step 2

Chose the most important item on your list to start working on.

Save your list, once you accomplish one thing you’ll want to go back and work on more, but for now, choose one thing.

If a bad habit is something you want to change, you will need to start working on breaking that habit.

If you want to be a friendlier person, you can start by smiling at more people. You don’t have to run out and start a conversation with everyone, but do start smiling more.

If you want to be more productive, exchange some of your free time and use it for work time. If that’s not something you’re willing to give up, then cut down on social media time and spend that extra time working.

Step 3

Work on this item consistently for a month.

It will take time to replace old habits with new ones, but you have to keep at it.

You may want to start journaling your daily progress to keep yourself in check.

Whatever ways you can come up with to start being a better you, do it.

Once you’ve consistently worked on this one thing for a month, go back to your list and add another item to start working on.

Don’t forget to keep up your new habit with the other things you’ve already changed.

It’s much easier to work on one thing, get good at it and then add one more thing. It’s a bit like juggling. When a person starts learning to juggle, they start with one pin or one ball. They get used to feel of it before adding a second pin or ball. They practice with that for a few weeks and then add a third ball or pin.

The key is to start mastering one thing before you add others.

Making positive changes in your life isn’t always easy, but if you follow this step by step, really simple plan, you will see results.

Self improvement requires a plan of action.

If you want to start being a better you, you need to plan.

Start making your plan, today….







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Women’s Health- How To Improve Your Mental Well Being

As a woman, you know what it’s like to be over-scheduled. You know what it’s like to give to and care of others more than you do for yourself. You know what it’s like to put yourself last because someone who depends on you needs your time.

You know what it’s like to work hard all day and come home to take care of responsibilities at home, too. Or you work hard at home all day and still your work doesn’t end just because the sun sets.

Being on emotional and psychological overload has become a way of life for many women. They are strong and they can handle a lot, but sometimes in the cycle, they often lose sight of the fact that that in order to keep giving to those they love or doing what they love, they have to recharge, they have to center themselves again.

The following seven tips can help you improve your mental well being and you’ll discover that when you feel better mentally, you feel better all over.

Tip #1 – If you’re overextended, ask for help. If you feel like a mouse chasing the cheese and the cheese keeps four steps ahead of you, then you’re doing too much. It’s normal to want to handle responsibilities without wanting to ask for help. But when you’re too busy, that can lead to feelings of stress or burning out.

Tip #2 – Get rid of negativity. If you have relationships that are bad for you, it’s time to cut ties. Surround yourself with positive people – people who will nourish you and support you. Let go of past emotional hurts and anything that ties you to a negative experience.

Tip #3 – Just STOP! As a woman, you’re so busy, so on the go that you never just stop and do nothing. Even on days off, you’re busy doing something that you feel has to be taken care of. Give yourself time to stop. Take off – be unavailable to everyone but you. Meditate, get involved in yoga or something else that relaxes you.

Tip #4 – Take part in activities that you enjoy. We often let go of what we enjoy doing. We push it off to the side because we don’t feel we have the time. Make time for the activities you love.

Tip #5 – Physical health, including rest and exercise, is closely tied in to mental well being. Make sure that you’re taking care of yourself through eating right, getting plenty of rest and exercising.

Tip #6 – Unload your burdens. Don’t carry around stress inside. We all need an outlet to talk about the things that bother or upset us. Talk to your friends, a therapist, or even use a journal to get out the things that give you a heavy mental load.

Tip #7 – Live your passion. If you feel stuck or you feel like life is passing you by – or this isn’t what you signed up for, change it. It’s never too late to chase a passion you have. You might not be able to pack up and move to Paris today if that’s your dream, but take smaller steps to reach that goal if that’s what you want.

How To Be A Better You

There’s no denying that you know yourself more than anybody else. Nonetheless, there are also things that you aren’t always aware of. In your life, you’ll meet people that are either great or rude. But even your friends won’t always shower you with compliments. If you’re friendship is as deep as you think it is, these comments are in no way meant to make you insecure and feel bad as a person. They are just there to tell you the truth and present you with the facts so that you don’t repeat these mistakes. Know that everyone was born with quirks, and while you are generally a good person, you do have some bad moments. Instead of turning a blind eye, see the bigger picture and learn to grow from the experience.

If some of the people in your life tell you something unpleasant, don’t shun them out completely. Look at the situation and analyze why they were driven to take such drastic measures. If that person is simply doing it out of spite, then this isn’t a friend to begin with. However, when the intention to correct a mistake is there, know that while the delivery may have been a little rough, they also had good intentions. Be a little more forgiving when it comes to these things because the only way to grow is to also learn from past mistakes. Sometimes, you don’t get the clear picture, and you need a person to tap you in the back and tell you to be careful. You’d do the same things for them as well if the roles were reversed.

In life, people are working at bettering themselves. Success can only be achieved when you work through both your strengths and weaknesses. Hone the former while work at overcoming the latter. Ask your friends for advice and know why they think there are things you need to work on. By being open to even negative remarks, you won’t come to a confrontation. Instead, you’ll get a heart-to-heart talk where you’ll emerge from the experience feeling better about yourself because you now know what specific problems to address. While your buds don’t necessarily always know what’s best for you, you could also heed their suggestions. Who knows, some of these could actually come in handy.

Then, there are also those who are too polite to tell you anything negative. This can be tricky because letting the person open up can be tricky. The key here is to be casual about it. Be nonchalant about it and inject some humor to make the situation lighter. Or, you can make things better by asking them to state things constructively. In other words, give you the solution instead of pointing out the problem. When you connect the dots, you’ll get to the bottom of things and can now make the assumptions yourself. Always remember to be open about the things being said about you. Knowing the good and bad stuff helps you overcome your weaknesses as you work your way to becoming a better and more successful person.