Respect, sharing and trust are what allows a relationship to persist, florish and remain healthy.
Healthy relationships are based on the belief that both partners are equal and the power in the relationship is shared by both partners.
The 50/50 rule is a simple way to view healthy relationships.
The following are 7 characteristics of a healthy relationship:
1. Respect – listening to one another, valuing each other’s opinions, and listening in a non-judgmental manner. Perhaps more important is respecting the other enough to understand and affirm the other’s emotions.
2. Trust and support – supporting each other’s goals in life, and respecting each other’s right to his/her own feelings, opinions, friends, activities and interest.
3. Honesty and accountability – communicating openly and truthfully, admitting mistakes or being wrong, acknowledging past use of violence, and accepting responsibility for one’s self.
4. Shared responsibility – making family/relationship decisions together, mutually agreeing on a distribution of work which is fair to both partners, giving the other adequate notice of decisions and what you expect of them to eliminate tension. If parents, the couple shares parental responsibilities and acts as positive, non-violent role models for the children.
5. Economic partnership – in marriage or cohabitation, making financial decisions together, and making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements. Letting the other know what you expect and not assuming they know what you are thinking.
6. Negotiation and fairness – being willing to compromise, accepting change, and seeking mutually satisfying solutions to conflict.
7. Non-threatening behavior – talking and acting in a way that promotes both partners’ feelings of safety in the relationship. In any relationship, both should feel comfortable and safe in expressing himself or herself when engaging in activities or conversation without fear of retribution.
If you are involved in any relationship you see the other as a valuable part of your life. Communication without retribution is the key to maintaining that value and to prevent the relationship from crumbling apart.